Saying your sorry often may indicate that you have super powers.
When I was in my early twenties my boss at the time pointed out that I say sorry too often. Instead of taking offense to this my first…
Saying your sorry often, may indicate that you have super powers.
When I was in my early twenties my boss at the time pointed out that I say sorry too often. Instead of taking offense to this my first reaction was I’m sorry.in all seriousness I begin to observe myself throughout the next week or so. I was appalled at how many times I said sorry. I would say sorry for the most ridiculous things that don’t even require anyone to say they’re sorry for. someone would ask me for a cup of coffee and I would say I’m sorry and then I would go get it for them. What was I sorry for was I sorry because I didn’t read their mind, they’re sorry because I have to go out of their way to ask me for one, was a sorry because they wanted a cup of coffee? Seriously. So then I began stop myself before I would say I was sorry but then I didn’t know what to say I felt like it became such an automated response that my tongue was tied. That took me a long time to figure out and I’m still learning. So where does deza superpower come in to play. When you really are sincerely sorry for something perhaps you are late for a dinner party, or you’re asking someone to do you a favour because you’re not able to do it yourself and you understand the inconvenience, or that you said something and you quickly felt that you may have hurt their feelings. Therein lies your superpower. You see you have a quick understanding in fact and intuition on empathy the consequences that your actions resulted in. Many people do not have this awareness. Many are angered and hurt, frustrated and hold resentment because people just don’t understand the ramifications of their actions and behaviours on others. But you have the superpower you understand it immediately and therefore the love that you have in your heart wants to rectify it as soon as possible. However is it necessary to use the word sorry every single time. It can come across as if it is Eagle, slightly narcissistic for some, a pity party for yourself, or the other Mayfield obligation to forgive you how to make you feel better and tell you that you do not need to feel sorry. Even though I was not sure what to say when I eliminated most of my sorry’s out of my vocabulary the same held true when I didn’t know what to say in replace of my real apologies. Until a friend of mine shared a post on Facebook and I have been doing this ever since. Now I have two superpowers! And you can too!
Today I was on day 16 of being sick, I use my computer for a living in the battery was dying, anytime you could stop working and I would lose everything. My husband warned me of this and today was the last day that I would be able to get it fixed before my work day and my week vacation. I could not take the chance. But I was too sick to go out. my husband had been away for four days and was extremely tired but I asked him if he would do the hour and a half drive to AppleCare and get it fixed. When he arrived he texted me and said it would be a two and a half hour wait. My first reaction was to profusely express my apologies telling him how terribly sorry I was for wasting his time and his day and also to add I was going to apologize for being sick and not doing it myself. But instead I used this new method and I said “Thank you for your patience and waiting to have my computer fixed. You are my hero.”
I think the image describes it best but let me give you a few examples of how you can use this extra superpower. in fact the amazing thing about this superpower is that the more you share this superpower the more that you may give somebody else the same super powers. It’s like a super-powered ripple effect!
Possibly you are late for a dinner date. Assuming this isn’t anything that you do all the time, you might say: “I realize that I am late, thank you for waiting and being so patient I really appreciate it”
Or possibly you have company and they ask you for coffee. You could say oh “I’m so sorry I don’t have any coffee” and then begin to worry about what you should do in terms of getting coffee. You could in turn say “I don’t have any coffee but I do have some regular tea and herbal tea can I make you one of those?”
Understanding that when we say sorry too often it creates this silent agreement between you and the other person and they feel an unnatural pull to either want to soothe you comfort you I forgive you. And if you admit you don’t want any of that at all. you just had this amazing super power of understanding that you may have inconvenience somebody or possibly hurt their feelings and that you want to acknowledge that, but as you can see now there are other ways that you can do this and empower them as well.